Fear is like a cloud.
It hovers over your head and the tasks you want to complete. But after a while, it passes and the sky becomes clear again.
When I notice myself putting something off and ask why, I tend to feel uncomfortable. Usually because there’s not much reason other than ‘I don’t want to’. Appealing to laziness is the same thing.
Usually, the bigger the task, the greater the uncomfortable feeling. This, and generally poor energy management, is probably why students tend to leave big essays until they begin to panic about the deadlines.
I experience this feeling a lot. It often leads to potent self-criticism that only serves to make me feel bad.
One thing I’ve found helpful is to meditate on this feeling. It takes less than a minute.
What am I experiencing right now? Am I worried about what’s going to happen if I try?
More often than not, it’s fear. Either the fear of discomfort or fear of failure. Every time I catch myself experiencing these feelings, the less powerful they become.
We don’t have to fear the discomfort of trying something new because it can signal a challenge that fosters some personal growth. It’s important not to diminish this growth even if you think it’s tiny. If your challenge was to pick up dirty clothes from the floor and you surpassed it, that’s a cleaner room you didn’t have yesterday.
Neither should we fear failure to the point where it stops us from moving forward because we can only succeed at something if we try and the joy of succeeding is greater than the pain of failure. Giving ourselves the excuse not to try is only a disservice to our abilities and passions.
Once permission is given not to be consumed by fear and not influence our actions, it passes. Just like a cloud.
As with many things, observing fear and letting it pass takes practice. I still fall victim to putting things off due to these fears as they will always pop up somewhere. It’s a normal thing and it’d be silly to expect everyone to be fearless all the time.
The goal is to move forward despite its existence.
At first, even noticing you’re afraid of something is difficult then moving past it can be a small battle. But don’t get discouraged if you notice its been victorious. Next time you’ll focus on the feeling again and it’ll become easier.
With time and practise, the fear will weaken and you will be immersed in the present moment.